For writers

As someone who knew no one in publishing when I first started out, I’m hugely passionate about helping demystify the industry for others. As I’m not able to be as chatty online as I once was, I’ve instead pulled together my biggest writing tips and industry thoughts here. I’d also love to ask that if you repost/share/quote anything here, that you credit me! All rights reserved, etc.

Please note, that to every ‘rule’ below, there are exceptions and things do change over time, so take everything below with a grain of salt. Nothing here will guarantee you an agent or a book deal. But this is what I learned in my own experience of trial and failure, and from chatting with other authors. I hope something here’s helpful!

 General publishing questions

My biggest advice for fledgling writers

Finish writing the book

Set a timeline for yourself and finish that first draft, whatever it takes—proving to yourself that you can do it is half the battle. If you keep getting slowed down by details you're unsure of, start a notebook (or spreadsheet) and make a note of each thing to figure out later, and then move on. And don't be afraid to experiment with your writing. Never stop trying to improve your craft and learning from others!

Find your people

Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to other writers. Learn to be a good beta reader—to give kind, honest critique, trying to understand what the writer is trying to accomplish in their words—and to receive that critique too.

Look beyond your own page

Research the business side of writing, like querying, and what makes a good literary agent, and how publishers and editors work, etc. Read good books and ‘bad’ books, picking apart the good and the bad of each. I honestly learn more from bad books than I do from good ones, which is weird to say but there we are. And for the love of heaven, read recent books (within the last 5 years) in your genre, so you know what the market is doing and what people are reading these days!

Beware who you show early work to

Harsh watering can murder a sapling that hasn’t gotten its roots in deep. Very well-intentioned family/friends/people (mainly non-writers) assume you need all the harsh critical feedback to help you improve, but that’s not true—similarly, all sunshine ‘this is perfect’ feedback isn’t always helpful, either.

You need feedback that is looking for the potential of your work, and willing to help you get it there. Which means encouragement on what you’re doing well, brainstorming when you get stuck, and honest but kind notes on what to focus on/how to strengthen the next round. Learn how to give this yourself, too. There is a difference between critique and criticism, and ain’t nobody need criticism, yall. Let me know if you want me to come somewhere and deliver a Ted Talk on that, because I will. I’ll bring my soapbox and megaphone.

Learn to face rejection (in your own time)

It’s the worst, but it’s a writer’s rite of passage. Let it sting, then pick yourself up, see if there’s anything you can learn from it, and put yourself out there again. It will get better. You will get better. The only failed writer is the one who gave up. If you’ve got stories inside you that you have to share and you can’t stop writing, don’t give up.

Additionally, learn to face rejection—and feedback—with grace

It really should go without saying, but I beg of thee: don’t argue with an agent’s rejection, or go around your/an agent to track down editors/publishers and sneak into their inboxes or phones. That will not help you! Similarly, if someone gives you feedback, try to take a step back and see where they are coming from. You don’t have to accept feedback you disagree with, and hopefully, the person giving feedback is being kind about it (we’re not talking about Those People who think they’re helping by shredding your book and handing it—and your will to write—back to you in tatters). But even good feedback can sting, and that’s okay. But to respond by shutting down, outright dismissing, or lashing out will only serve to alienate that person who is (hopefully) trying to help tease out your work to its highest potential. Being professional about your work is part of being an author.

And lastly, always, always be kind

…even when you get those rejections, even if someone acts snotty about something, or if someone’s books end up not being for you. You’re not just a consumer/reviewer anymore—if you’re a writer and aspiring author, other writers are now your colleagues, and playground rules still apply: tearing down others [in the industry] says more about you than it does about them. I personally would recommend against criticizing books or authors in public/online, or posting negative reviews. Even in closed conversations, I’d still exercise caution. You don’t need to be besties with everyone—or gush lies about loving a book you secretly want to convert into confetti—but publishing is smaller than you think. So, be mindful! Be professional! Kindness is free!

Query advice

(aka, first step toward traditional publishing: how to find an agent and pitch your book)